It was because of a foolishness that he realized. It was not made of pasta. Or maybe it wasn’t silly. But the fact is that Silvia decided one day to stop being a man, stop looking for her better half and forget about love disappointments. One day she Silvia decided that it was time to live her best love story from her. And that love story was going to be with herself
The myth of the couple
- When Silvia believed that things could be done better, she did everything possible to do better. That attitude worked for her at work and also in her personal development. And so she had spent several years being more than happy in her work and feeling more and more confident with herself. Better every time. However, the capacity for effort in the couple was totally counterproductive. None of the boyfriends she’d had in the past few years were interested in improving their relationship with her.
- Some directly avoided any relationship problem, avoiding the obligatory conversation; others locked themselves into their role as victims asking for forgiveness for any mistake made but without even thinking about how not to make it again; others cheated on her, but not with other women, but with lies they took her down paths that she did not want to travel … Of course, Silvia knew that no relationship is perfect, that misunderstandings and disagreements are there.
- What Silvia could not understand is that she had not met any man who wanted to resolve the misunderstandings in time. The last man in his life was almost perfect except for a manifest inability to face a conversation. Silvia doesn’t even remember what the specific problem was. She only remembers that there was a disagreement, that they sat down to talk about it and that, once again, it was not a dialogue, but Silvia’s monologue. On the other side, there was only silence.
Better alone in love
- Silvia found it tremendously ridiculous to talk to the wall, so this time she couldn’t take it anymore and disappeared from that man’s life. The truth is that she disappeared from any man’s life. If she hadn’t found any man who loved her honestly, passionately and consistently, she already would. She would love herself like no man was capable of.
- And indeed, she began to work even more on her personal development, to cultivate her happiness with care, to choose friends who truly loved her, to get away from all negative people, to approach her family from a healthier position, to be more generous with her time, to dedicate herself to doing activities that would make her smile. Thus, little by little, Silvia felt better and better, happier, more and more fulfilled. She had the love of many people, she had the love of herself and, finally, she no longer needed the love of a partner.
- And the sex. As self-sufficient as Silvia became, there was something missing in her life, full of love for herself and for others. Something as prosaic as sexual intercourse sometimes made her doubt her position. Little by little, sex stopped being a problem for her. She quickly learned to please herself and pleasure herself more than any man had ever been able to. Only sometimes, some nights, she thought she needed the smell and touch of a male body to love on the other side of the bed.